Forgiveness Isn't a Hallmark Card - It's a Superpower
Chandra Eden, The True Me Yogi
The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment
Author: Eckhart Tolle
When something dreadful happens to me or someone close to me - accident, illness, pain of some kind or death - I can pretend that it isn't bad, but the fact remains that it IS bad. So why deny it?
You are not pretending anything. You are allowing it to be as it is, that's all. This "allowing to be" takes you beyond the mind with its resistance patterns that create the positive-negative polarities. It is an essential aspect of forgiveness. Forgiveness of the present is even more important than forgiveness of the past. If you forgive every moment - allow it to be as it is - then there will be no accumulation of resentment that needs to be forgiven at some later time.
Forgiveness Isn’t a Hallmark Card—It’s a Superpower
Let’s talk about forgiveness. Not the fluffy, “I forgive you because I’m a saint” kind. I’m talking about the gritty, real-world, “life just threw a brick at my face, and I’m choosing not to punch back” kind of forgiveness. The kind that doesn’t come with a soundtrack of angelic harps but instead feels like unclenching your fists after holding them tight for way too long.
Here’s the thing: Life is messy. People get sick, accidents happen, and sometimes your favorite taco truck runs out of guac. Bad stuff happens, and pretending it’s not bad doesn’t make it any less bad. (Spoiler alert: toxic positivity isn’t the answer.) But here’s where it gets interesting—what if you didn’t have to fight it? What if you just… let it be?
No, I’m not saying you should throw on a robe, sit cross-legged, and chant “it is what it is” until the universe magically fixes everything. I’m saying that when you stop resisting the bad stuff—when you stop mentally wrestling with reality—you free up a ridiculous amount of energy. Energy you can use to actually deal with the situation instead of spiraling into resentment, anger, or a Netflix binge fueled by rage-snacking.
This is where forgiveness comes in. Not the “I forgive you, Mike, for stealing my stapler” kind, but the forgiveness of the present moment. It’s about allowing life to be what it is, even when it sucks. Because when you resist what’s happening, you’re not just fighting the situation—you’re fighting yourself. And let’s be honest, you’re probably not winning that fight.
Forgiving the present moment doesn’t mean you’re okay with what’s happening. It doesn’t mean you’re giving up or letting people walk all over you. It means you’re choosing not to let the situation own you. You’re saying, “Yeah, this is bad, but I’m not going to let it turn me into a bitter, resentful shell of a human.”
And here’s the kicker: When you forgive the present moment, you’re not just saving yourself from the pain of now. You’re saving yourself from the mountain of resentment you’d otherwise be carrying into the future. You’re breaking the cycle before it even starts. It’s like decluttering your emotional closet before it turns into an episode of Hoarders.
So, the next time life throws you a curveball, try this: Take a deep breath. Acknowledge that it sucks. And then, instead of resisting, just let it be. Forgive the moment for being what it is. You might just find that the act of letting go is the most rebellious, freeing thing you can do.
Because forgiveness isn’t about being a saint—it’s about being free. And honestly, who doesn’t want that?
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