How to Stop Being a Human Disco Ball of Negativity (and Start Shining Some Good Vibes Instead)
Written by Chandra Eden, The True Me Yogi
The Seat of the Soul
Author: Gary Zukav
"You change the way that you shape the Light which is flowing through you by changing your consciousness.
You do this, for example, when you challenge a negative pattern, such as anger, and consciously choose to replace it with compassion, or when you challenge impatience and consciously choose to understand and appreciate the needs of others.
This creates different forms of thought, feeling and action. It changes your experience."
How to Stop Being a Human Disco Ball of Negativity (and Start Shining Some Good Vibes Instead)
Let’s talk about light. Not the kind you flip on when you walk into a room or the kind that makes you squint in every vacation photo. I’m talking about the metaphorical light—the energy, vibes, and consciousness you’re radiating out into the world. You know, the stuff that makes people either want to hug you or cross the street when they see you coming.
Here’s the thing: whether you realize it or not, you’re constantly shaping the light that flows through you. And if you’re not careful, that light can get a little… murky. Maybe it’s tinged with anger, impatience, or the kind of passive-aggressive energy that makes your barista spell your name wrong on purpose. But the good news? You can change it. You can consciously reshape your light to be less “storm cloud” and more “sunbeam.” Let’s dive into how—and why it’s worth the effort.
Your Consciousness Is Basically a Prism
Imagine your consciousness is like a prism. Light flows through it, and the way you shape that light determines what comes out on the other side. If your prism is clouded with negativity—anger, impatience, jealousy—then the light you’re shining out into the world is going to look like, well, a hot mess. But if you consciously clean up your prism, you can transform that light into something beautiful, like compassion, understanding, or the kind of joy that makes people want to invite you to their birthday parties.
The key word here is consciously. You don’t just wake up one day and magically stop being annoyed by slow walkers or people who chew loudly. (If only.) You have to actively choose to challenge those negative patterns and replace them with something better. It’s like upgrading your internal operating system—except instead of downloading new software, you’re downloading new ways of thinking, feeling, and acting.
The Art of Replacing, Not Suppressing
Here’s where a lot of people get tripped up: they think the goal is to suppress negative emotions. But let me tell you, suppressing anger or impatience is like trying to hold a beach ball underwater—it’s only a matter of time before it pops back up and smacks you in the face. The real trick is to replace those emotions with something more constructive.
For example:
Anger → Compassion: Instead of stewing over how your coworker stole your idea in the meeting, try to understand where they’re coming from. Maybe they’re insecure, or maybe they genuinely thought it was a team effort. Compassion doesn’t mean you let people walk all over you—it just means you stop letting their actions ruin your day.
Impatience → Understanding: Stuck in a long line at the grocery store? Instead of huffing and puffing, take a moment to appreciate that the cashier is probably doing their best. Or, you know, use the time to scroll Instagram guilt-free. Either way, you’re choosing peace over frustration.
How Changing Your Light Changes Your Life
When you consciously reshape your light, you’re not just doing the world a favor—you’re doing yourself a favor. Here’s why:
You Feel Better: Let’s be real—anger, impatience, and negativity are exhausting. They drain your energy and leave you feeling like a grumpy old troll. Compassion and understanding, on the other hand, are energizing. They make you feel lighter, happier, and more connected to the people around you.
You Attract Better Things: Ever notice how negativity tends to breed more negativity? It’s like a self-fulfilling prophecy. But when you radiate positivity, you start attracting more of it. People are kinder, opportunities flow more easily, and life just feels… better.
You Become a Magnet for Good Vibes: When you shine good light, people want to be around you. You become the person who lifts others up, who makes them feel seen and appreciated. And let’s be honest—who doesn’t want to be that person?
Practical Tips for Shaping Your Light
Okay, so how do you actually do this? How do you go from being a human disco ball of negativity to a beacon of good vibes? Here are some tips:
Pause Before Reacting:
When you feel anger or impatience bubbling up, take a deep breath and pause. Ask yourself, “What’s really going on here?” Often, the thing that’s triggering you isn’t as big of a deal as it feels in the moment.
Flip the Script:
Instead of focusing on what’s annoying you, look for something to appreciate. Stuck in traffic? Be grateful for the podcast you’re listening to. Annoyed by a coworker? Appreciate the fact that they brought donuts to the office last week. (Even if they ate the last chocolate one.)
Practice Gratitude:
Gratitude is like Windex for your prism—it clears away the gunk and lets your light shine brighter. Take a few minutes each day to write down three things you’re grateful for. Bonus points if you can find something positive in a situation that annoyed you.
Surround Yourself with Good Energy:
The people you spend time with have a big impact on your light. If you’re constantly around negativity, it’s going to rub off on you. Seek out people who inspire you, challenge you, and make you laugh.
Laugh at Yourself:
Speaking of laughter, don’t take yourself too seriously. If you catch yourself being impatient or grumpy, laugh it off and try again. Change is a process, not a one-and-done deal.
Final Thoughts: Be the Light You Want to See
At the end of the day, reshaping your light isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being intentional. It’s about choosing compassion over anger, understanding over impatience, and joy over negativity. It’s about realizing that the way you shape your light doesn’t just affect you—it affects everyone around you.
So the next time you feel your inner storm cloud brewing, take a deep breath and ask yourself: What kind of light do I want to shine today? Then go out there and shine it. Because the world could always use a little more sunshine—and you’ve got plenty to give.